1) Go Slow- Don’t rush into stimulation of the cervix. If there isn’t sufficient arousal it might not feel good at all. Cervical Massage feels best if there has been a clitoral orgasm first.
2) Know What to Feel For- In most cases the cervix will feel like the tip of your nose. It can be in different locations depending on the woman’s anatomy, where she is on her cycle, if she has given birth and how aroused she is.
3) Start Light- Try using your fingertips to lightly massage around the cervix. Many women are sensitive on their cervix, especially right before menstruation. I have found the best time for cervical massage is a few days after she has stopped bleeding.
4) Wash Hands- Make sure that your hands are clean, or wear vinyl gloves. This will ensure that no bacteria gets up into the cervical area.
5) It’s Okay if Emotion Comes Up- Sometimes getting a cervical massage can be very emotional. If emotion does come up don’t stop what you are doing. If you are by yourself, keep breathing deeply and witness the emotions that surface. If you are giving to your female partner, encourage them to breathe and be with the emotions. Ask them if there is anything they need, or if they want you to do anything differently.
When To Stimulate The Cervix Having this X-orgasm is not like having an extra arm or leg. You can’t just activate it whenever you please, or at least that’s not how it works for me. There are days when it works in my favor completely and I’ll have these “wild” cervical orgasms and there are days when it’s painful for my partner to bump my cervix during intercourse. I just have to take note and be aware of when my cervix is happy. This works differently than my g-spot because almost any time of day or month, my partner can work my g-spot and have me fully there. My g-spot is just always in the mood, my cervix is not.
If someone were going to go on a quest to orgasm via cervical stimulation, I would say, from my own experience, to avoid trying on the days following your menstrual cycle and possibly on days you’re ovulating. However, I’ve found that I often experience the most intense X-orgasms on the days leading up to my menstrual cycle. Some women may find cervical stimulation the most enjoyable during their actual menstrual cycle. Everyone is different.
The reason I say you may want to avoid prodding at your cervix on days following your menstrual cycle is because those days are when your cervix (or mine, at least) is tender and stimulation can cause it to hurt rather than be pleasurable. Another thing I learned when figuring out how this works was if the opening of my cervix was very prominent, those are the times when I end up feeling pain rather than pleasure. But on days when my cervix is more closed, and I only feel a “slit” rather than a wider opening, then it’s a happy cervix day and that usually indicates it will be pleasurable.
It may even be a good idea to take note of your cervix’s position. I myself have what gynecologists refer to as a “tilted cervix". Whether or not my tilted organ has any relation to my ability to X-orgasm is beyond me.
If you’re someone who thoroughly enjoys deep penetration and using lengthy toys, this could be a sign that you’re an X-orgasm-er and in that case, I’d recommend trying positions that allow for this kind of stimulation. I suppose this will differ for everybody, but I find positions like “doggy-style," or those similar to work best. While missionary position (with my legs resting on his shoulders) allows my cervix to be stimulated during intercourse, I find that the orgasm is more intense if I’m in a semi-standing, semi-bent over position. Standing up with my upper half resting on a table or bed works the best.
Unlike with the clitoris though, I don't experience pleasurable sensation from simply rubbing my cervix. My X-orgasm comes from my cervix being bumped during intercourse or with a toy. The repetitive hitting or bumping against the cervix is what produces an orgasm, for me. Don’t confuse that with vigorous pounding of the cervix please, because that will not be pleasurable! Instead, thrusting in and out and focusing on hitting the cervix gently but consistently is the key here.
Other Suggestions You could start off by handing a toy to your partner. Have them explore with a toy because they can do so closely and have more control over the toy than they would trying to stimulate you via intercourse. Slowly inserting up to the cervix, and then backing out and gently pushing back in until you reach the cervix again will create a great pace. After this you can personally decide if you’re okay with a quicker pace.
Stimulating your g-spot to the point of orgasm (if that’s possible for you) before trying to reach cervical pleasure makes it more likely to happen. So work your g-spot first! It seems to increase my chances of having an intense X-orgasm.
Like I said, for me, neither g-spot nor cervical orgasms were forced, they just happened on surprise. I believe going into it with too much trying may make it even less likely to happen. One reason I say this is because any time I am trying to give myself an orgasm (g-spot or cervical) it does not happen!
I’ve also found other ways to also stimulate the cervix. For instance, a glass dildo can sometimes produce this X-orgasm, but that’s something you’d want to be careful with since hard materials like glass can injure your cervix. So for someone who wanted to try, I would not recommend glass for your very first, but perhaps a silicone toy like the one I used with great results.
Some will enjoy a more gentle approach, and some like me, enjoy a rougher one. But banging into the cervix is not what we’re going for. We want to gently reach it, back away and aim for it again. Treating it like a chef would a delicate dish. Let me see if this gets my point across better: think of slicing the skin off a peach. A peach is soft, but firm and its skin is delicate. If your goal was to gently remove the skin from a peach while leaving the inner fruit perfectly intact, you’d be treating it with firm, but loving care, right? Whereas if your goal is to orgasm from g-spot stimulation, you’d be applying some force and going at a fast pace, kind of digging in. Don’t gouge your cervix! It's more sensitive than the g-spot.